As a culture we are uncomfortable with grief – our own and that of the people around us. Healing comes by going through grief. When a loved one dies our lives are shattered and it leave us feeling like a piece of broken pottery. The break in the relationship hurts so much physically we believe that we will never feel the way we did before that person died. The grieving process allows us to find ways of pouring gold into the wounds of our sadness and somehow reforming us into people that have new abilities. This process can take years. It takes patience with ourselves, and we must give ourselves permission to grieve in the manner we need to, as we slowly re-engage with life again.